She reported that she was not able to take her other son ‘Nouman Alawi’ (son from another
man) who was left in their home at West Marinaut because Nouman cannot walk. His foot was
injured few days before the attack in Marawi. Since then, they do not have information of whether
he was saved or was able to leave Marawi City. She tried reporting the same but no report or news
has reached her as to his son’s whereabouts.
STORY OF LGBTIs and LGBT parents
Cosnia and Mangoda
LGBT is a taboo and is prohibited both under Islam and their culture. Women at a tender
age are already arranged to marry a male. But there is one LGBT partner Mila Mangoda and
Cosnia Disimban that were interviewed. It can be observed that both of them got married first and
bore children. Both of their husband died already and just recently they fell in love with each other
two days before Valentines day this year. Mila Mangoda had two (2) children from her deceased
husband and was left to take care of them since then. Mila shared and even showed her former
girlfriend who she had relationship with prior to Cosnia. Mila Mangoda on the other hand have
three (3) children, two (2) from her deceased husband and one (1) from another man. When asked
about their status, as solo parents, Mila told shared that Cosnia treated her children as their own
and the same with Cosnia’s children Mila also treated them as hers. When asked who their
partners are, Mila said that her partner and the person she loved is Cosnia. Mila shared that they
do not want other people to know or talk about their relationship since it is a ‘taboo’ in their
community and gossips can easily spread, especially that they are in the evacuation center. The
conflict forced Mila to temporarily send her children to her aunt in Bolondo until such time that
they will have a home to stay in Marawi. Both Mila and Cosnia work as ‘Traffic Enforcer’ in Marawi
City, but because of the conflict they were forced to leave work to protect their children. Both of
them tried to negotiate with the Mayor of Marawi for their unpaid salary since they need to have
money to also buy things that they also need which is not provided in the EC. In fact, right after
the interview they are planning to talk with the Mayor to help them find job to be able to support
the needs of their family.
Michael, LGBTI from Marawi City
Michael is 26 years old, identifies as a member of the LGBTI community. Michael shared
that before the conflict, she used to work in one of the parlors in Campo Ranao. He said she’s “girl
and girl” and that she then sported a very long hair. She then shared that when the conflict
happened and with the influx of IDPs she decided to have her hair cut – a normal boy cut so as
not to draw attention. But she emphasized she’s “girl na girl, ahit ganito ako ngayon,” referring to
her more masculine gender expression. Seeing the many IDPs in the Saguiran EC, and as one of
the home based IDP in Saguiaran, Michael volunteered to be one of the IDP group leaders. Asked
if her being a transwman affected his leadership and the way he was treated by fellow IDPs,
Michael shared that when he volunteered as team leader, he asked them if they will accept him as
a leader and they did. Since then she served as one of the group leaders, she admits though that
as a trans leader, she often hears painful things said about LGBTIs, it hurts and insults her and
most of the times, she would choose not to say anything to prevent further conflict. He said,
“Minsan nakakapagod din maging LGBTI, kung minsan may mariring ka ng hindi mo gusto.
Minsan nakariniG ako na ‘kaya nagbarilan at nabomba ang Marawi dahil sa mga bakla’, mga
ganun na mga masamang salita. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, wala kayong karapatan na humustaga
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