Table 3.11: Women’s Experience of Discrimination in the Community Did you experience any form of discrimination in the community after the EJK? yes Total 10 no 19 no answer 17 Total 46 For those who said they have experienced such, this related mostly to being gossiped about, and feelings of being isolated or ignored. Hindi naman po nawawala kasi laging may nasasabi ang ibang tao kahit hindi nila alam ang tunay na pagkatao [of the victim and his family]. Ang lagi ko na lang sinasabi sa sarili ko anuman ang sabihin ng ibang tao tungkol sa asawa ko, wala akong pakialam dahil hindi nila alam kung ano at sino ba talaga at lalong hindi naman namin natatapakan ang ibang tao.(Region IV) Those who are judgemental they think because it is true that my husband was with the suspect. [Just because] he was in the same motor vehicle, he is guilty. (Region VIII) Hindi na panatag ang loob sa tahanan at sa komunidad. Maraming naririnig na masasakit na salita mula sa komunidad patungkol sa asawa at pamilya. Iniisip ng mga tao na lahat ay galing sa droga…. Sinasabi ng mga tao na nakaipon kami dahil sa drugs na lingid sa kanilang kaalaman na lahat ng iyon ay utang ko at tulong ng aking mga kapatid (CAR) Two women in Region IX also experienced being associated with drugs because a family member was killed: The husband of our barangay captain came during the wake of my husband accused us of indeed selling drugs, the brothers of my husband were even called to the barangay hall for investigation I heard people talking about him, that he was using drugs. My friends somewhat ignore me after what happened. They seemed to associate me with the alleged wrongdoings of my son. For those who did not experience any form of discrimination, they credited this to their good relations with their neighbors from way back. Some also said it was also because their neighbors were sympathetic and felt sorry for them (“naaawa”), or they believed that the victim was a good person and could not have been involved in illegal drugs. If people did not immediately come to help, two women attributed this to fear, not discrimination. None. The only effect was that the neighbors were afraid to go to the wake at night (vigil) because they were afraid the perpetrator might return. (Region X) Panaghoy: The Philippine War on Drugs from the Perspective of Women March 2019 37