“Jende gaha tamen ginda con ese punto. Reza yo para su cambio y jende le hace otra vez (I don’t think it will reach that point. I pray for his change and he would not do [the violence] once more).” Researchers’ Observations: S21 tolerated the physical violence she has been receiving from her husband of 8 years. She is not conscious of her having been a victim of psychological abuse and is at times defending her husband when her friends talk to her about leaving him. Analysis: S21 has been psychologically and emotionally abused more than she was physically hurt by her husband. Her emotions for her husband and children keep her making a firm decisión for her and her children’s future. Survivor 22 S22 is from Tumaga, who had been married for 7 years and had a 7 year old daughter. The incident of violence happened was on May 2020 they had an argument about financial matters. He boxed her at her arms and in some parts of her body, and also he shouted at her. She asked herself why her husband sometimes hurts her especially when he is mad and she thinks about her child if she grows up without a father. “Sabe yo, ayuda comigo el barangay u policía, y sabe yo tiene yo derecho como mujer (I know, the barangay and pólice will help me, and I know I have a right as a woman).” “Envisti yo si hace le otra vez comigo, especialmente si mas malo pa ele comigo hace. Si maltrata le otra vez comigo, reporta gat yo enseguida con ele na barangay (I will fight back if he does to me again, especially if he does worse to me. If he maltreats me once again, I would report him immediately to the barangay).” She reported the first incident but only in the barangay. Asked if she would file a case against him for VAW as a woman she stated “Depende si hace le sentí otra vez comigo y palmadia le comigo ya tamen (It depends if he hurts me once again and he slaps me again).” Researchers’ Observations: S22 thought at first that arguments between couples were part of marriage life but she started feeling pain when the physical violence started with her husband boxing her in her forearms and even slapping her at the middle of their verbal quarrels, especially when he 52

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