Interestingly, S6 never felt alone. “No hay yo pensa como solo lang yo con
este problemapor causa ta ayuda comigo el barangay. Aquel primer vez le
comigo insulta, ya hace yo pasa dol nohay nada lang, pero cuando ya hace
le otra vez, enseguida ya yo ya avisa na barangay. (I never felt alone in this
problem because the barangay officials helped me. There was one time
when he insulted me that I let it go past, but when he did it again I reported
him to the barangay).”
She would have courage to report her husband if he do this again, she
stated “of course” and justifying herself, “cay no quire mas yo senti el
dolor que ta hace le comigo bien bajo y cosa-cosa le ta murmura y grita
comigo (because I don’t want to feel the pain of his belittling me and with
all that he said to and shouted at me).”
S6 did not report earlier the incident “por causa ta alingasa to na
educacion y estudio del mi anak y baka planta le comigo caso. Aquel
primero, ya hace yo pasa dol no hay nada pero ya avisa uya yo cuanda ya
grita le comigo, “Pendeja vos!” (because I was worried over the
education[al expenses for the] education of my child and he might a file a
case against me. At first I let it pass but when I reported him, he said to
me, ‘You’re an a—hole’!).”
Asked if she would file a case against him for VAW being a woman, S6
stated, “Of course por causa derecho de amun maga mujeres que envisti de
amun maga derecho, para jende ya canamun insulta el maga hombre
acerca de amun pagka mujerdahil karapatan naming mga babae na
ipaglaban ang aming karapatan, para hindi na insultuhin ng mga lalaki ang
aming pagkababae (Of course because it is our right as women to fight for
our rights so that we don’t get insulted by the men on our womanhood!)”
Researchers’ Observations: S6’s husband feels that she is inferior to him,
especially in doing house chores that would make him feel less manly. His
parents and family are not supportive of her as his partner and not all
accept their daughter. However, he had not been engaged with another
woman, and their living together for 22 years without the benefit of
marriage is good enough for her because he has not stopped fulfilling his
financial obligations to her and their daughter.
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