Masakit ang mawalan ng anak. Nararamdaman ko pa rin ito hanggang ngayon ang labis na pagdadalamhati sa pagkakapatay ng aking anak. Malapit na mag-saing taon ang araw ng kamatayan ni Rhyan. Dama pa rin ng buong pamilya namin ang pagkawala niya. (Region III) In Region VI, a father became depressed after his son was killed: After the death of the victim, his father did not return to his house. He opted stay in the city and lived in GP’s[the victim] house. He was kind of depressed… he kept on saying again and again that he cannot believe what happened to his son. For him, GP is a nice, kind and good person. He was drunk everyday from morning till night. A month after his son died, the neighbors found him floating in the river, already dead. The experience of grief and grieving varied from one household member to another, from one family to another. On the extreme, there are cases of depression and suicide, as described above. On the other end, some women stated that their family have already stabilized from the violent event: Nothing changed with how we are. Like his wife, she still goes home to their house. It is like before, it is still the same. Nothing much changed. Of course, at first we were scared because he died and we were always thinking about it. Everyone was at home by 7:00 PM because we were afraid that someone might come after us on the street beyond that. But after three months, the situation went back to normal. (Region VIII) One woman also shared that although her family were financially burdened by the death of her brother, they were also now more at peace because the constant worry and fear that he might get into trouble was gone. It became difficult for them in terms of their economic situation because the children [of the victim who are now living with them] are growing up, and their expenses are increasing….However, with the death of J., their worries were also gone. They did not have to deal with the rumors and stories about him anymore. She said that they are now living peacefully and quietly. No more bad news about him, and no more fear of receiving unexpected news concerning him. (Region VI) The parents of a battered partner of an EJK victim also felt relieved when the victim died, knowing that their daughter is safer now (Region XI). (See also Box 2) Another basic need that was affected by the killing was housing or security of shelter. As reported in Region VI: They [the interviewee and her family] left their house for fear of being the next victim. They tried to live with their relatives but move out after several days for fear of being followed, or be targeted as the next victim. They do not stay permanently in one place. As a result, the family were separated from each other and live in constant fear and anxiety. The family was twice victimized by EJK: the son and father were killed only one month apart. The interviewee did not know of her son or husband’s involvement in drugs, although she has heard that her son was a police asset. Panaghoy: The Philippine War on Drugs from the Perspective of Women March 2019 34