relationship may be harmonious and I’m thinking too of my children even
when I am hurt with his adulterous relationships).”
Asked if she would file as case against him for VAW as woman S10
responded, “Opo, dahil hindi ko na kaya ang mga panlolokong ginawa niya
sa akin. Paulit-ulit na lang. Para wala nang maging katulad ko na nagtiis sa
ganitong sitwasyon (Yes, because I can no longer bear the womanizing he
does. It has become repetitive. It is better that no one else becomes like
me who has been bearing this kind of situation).”
Researchers’ Observations:
S10 is a battered wife physically,
psychologically, emotionally, and is economically abused. Her three
children are aware of their mother’s sufferings but they think could not do
much because they were/are all dependent on their father’s financial
support on education, food, wáter, electricity and the house itself.
Analysis: S10 and her daughters are all victims of violence as the two girls
suffer emotionally at the psychological abuse of their father on their
mother that they witness in the domestic front.
Survivor 11
S11 is from Tumaga, who has been living together with her partner for 12
years and with whom she has 2 children. The first incidence of violence she
experienced was on December of 2019 when they had a fight and her
partner punched her and strangled by the neck and also shouted at her.
“Iniisip ko ang mga anak ko. Sinasabi ko na, tama na…Iniisip ko kung
paano sila kung walang ama magsustento, ngayon pa na mahirap talaga
ang panahon (I think of my children. I say, that’s enough…I think of how
things would be for them if they would not have a father who would
financially support them, especially now when times are very hard).”
However she never thought of being alone or any problem to the
government because she knows that she has her family and government
agencies that are willing to help her.
“Kung tutuusin, dapat lang talaga ireklamo siya dahil hindi na tama ang
pananakit niya. Masakit para sa akin kasi ang akala ko pahahalagaan niya
ako (To think, he really must be reported because his hurting me is not
right. It hurts me because I thought he would value me).”
“Mas pa noong naisip ko ang kapakanan ng mga anak ko naisip ko kung
kakayanin ko ba mag-isa dahil maraming hadlang o anu-ano’ng pumasok
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