The succeeding pages contain the thirty-five cases studied for one to three
visits (depending on the degree of willingness to participate in the study at
hand and extent of openness to divulge and share experiences as a VAW
survivor) in their respective communities. Each case study has a
summary of the data given by the survivor herself, followed by a brief
analysis based on the theme of her over-all responses.
Case Studies of 35 Survivors
Survivor 1
S1 is from Mercedes, who has been living together with her current
partner for 11 months now. She could no longer recall the specific date or
month when her partner started emotionally hurting her. He has never
inflicted pain upon her physically, but she has been constantly threatened
with being left or abandoned for another woman, and insisted that their
child is not his.
She kept on thinking what she lacked as a woman, and what her faults and
failures were.
“Nagpapakumbaba ako. Halos gabi-gabi akong umiiyak sa kakaisip kung
paano na kami (I have humbled myself. Almost every night I think how we
may survive),” she sobbed. “Alam ko naman na kaya kong buhayin ang
anak namin at nand’yan naman ang pamilya ko (I also know that I can
manage raising my child and my family is there).”
“Magtrabaho ako para buhayin ko ang anak ko sa lahat ng makakaya ko.
Pero nung una, lumapit talaga ako sa barangay nagbakasakaling magbago
ang isip nya (I will work to raise my child to the best that I can. However,
at first, I really approached the barangay hoping that he will change his
mind).”
“’Di ako nag report ng mas maaga pa dahil akala ko, babalik lang sya kaya
naghintay ako pero iniwan lang kami sa ere ng anak ko (I did not report
earlier because I thought, he would come back so I waited but He just left
me and my child hanging).”
Asked if she would file a case against him for VAW being a woman, S1
stated, “Siguro, pero okay na ako. Kaya kong buhayin ang anak ko kahit
wala siya, dahil inabandona niya kami at iniwan lang basta basta. Nung
una, sinasabi niya na hindi kanya tong anak ko kahit s’ya naman
talaga. Kahit masakit hindi ko na lang ipipilit ang sarili namin (Perhaps,
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